Guys, in your house, does your wife have a place for absolutely everything? You know, all of the little things that adorn every flat surface to the point that, when you want to put a book or, God forbid, a glass on a table, you have to make a decision on whether to move the little ceramic hand-painted rabbit from Budapest or one of the fourteen silver picture frames? You know the ones. They show you 40 pounds ago when you had hair. And, if you do decide to move something, and then you don’t get it back in the right spot, pardner, you’re toast.
As soon as she comes in the back door, there is a pause, the cocking of the head, the raising of the eyebrows and the thought, “There is a disturbance in the Force”. (And buddy, she knows who’s causing it!) And she will head straight to the place of the insurrection and begin the rearrangement along with a sidelong glance of mild disgust. Around our place it’s called “The Look”. You really don’t want “The Look”.
Here’s another criminal offense that can be committed around our place. Leaving a water circle on the antique table that had water circles from 1746 that, when we bought it, gave it its “charm” and “warmth” not to mention the ridiculous price. But adding MY water circle? No way! Hey, the way I look at it, I’ve just added to the charm and warmth and whatever idiot buys it from my grandchildren will think that MY water circle is just as charming as the others. But somehow my logic is lost on my wife. Break out the wood stain and polish and the lecture concerning water circles and the use of a coaster.
Can we all agree that another water circle or chip is going to ADD not detract from the “charm” and “usability” of most of the stuff that we have accumulated?
What’s the point? Personally, I like to do business with people that have a little scar tissue on them from past battles. They are, much like the water circles, evidence of use. They have been out there “amongst ‘em” and have learned where a lot of the potholes are on life’s roads.
That is valuable information for someone coming along behind or beside that person. Granted, some people let the past hardships make them bitter and they are perfectly willing to pass their disappointments along to anyone that will listen. From these people, run fast and run far. Their water circles have only served to make them calloused and bitter.
But the ones that have survived well and have a story to tell that is helpful to the rest of us, keep them close and keep them talking. Ask them the kind of questions that will get them telling stories from the battlefield and listen well to what they are saying. Take those stories to heart and put them to work in your own journey.
Look for the water circles on the antiques. Business translation? Look for the older (antiques) folks in the business world and find out what made the circles and learn from it. The water circles, scratches and chips may not be what add value in an antique but it’s what adds value in people. Now, go create some of your own circles for the next generation.